Being You with Family at Christmas
On 29th October 2019 by Tanya
Every year, we get a round robin from a cousin, with a list of her and her family’s achievements during the past year. They live near the Great Lakes in Canada and we visited 2 years ago. When I read the round robin, I would feel bad, I had not done pickle ball and got a medal for it, I had not picked up my canoe and packed it away, for the winter. She was hiding serious health concerns, redundancy and chaotic, house moves. On being shown around the beautiful Canadian countryside, she could not understand my food preference for gluten and dairy free and not thrilled to visit her favourite, attraction a milkshake and hot dog parlour.
The other cousin was quite open about her health concerns and a lot more fun, come and stay with my husband’s a great cook, look at the changes he has made, what would you like to do? We get to the travel to the sun each year to manage my condition.
At Christmas, we get to spend time with family and friends those with share similar patterns and opinions. Some of them rub us up the wrong way, others we can sink into gratefully. For many, years I choose to spend Christmas alone. Much to the fury of family and friends. I loved walking in nature and seeing the light change, and going home gratefully. We are told no-one should be alone at Christmas, what if it is choice?
This year, I am authorised to teach a class called Stepping into being you at Christmas. It is on Saturday 7th December from 14.00 until 17.00. We will use the tools and processes from Access Consciousness® so, you can have more ease at Christmas.
Magic Walk Monday 22nd April - What did I enjoy about it?
On 25th April 2019 by Tanya
The starting point is delightful. Dando Compton Village Hall is set in a beautiful hamlet in the fold of a hill. A stream runs along the front; and the back overlooks fields in which there were sheep and lambs. It is right next door to “The Compton Arms”, a pub which serves reasonably priced food.
The walk took us past the church, through fields filled with horses and foals. Ruth paused from time to time to engage with the energy that was all around us. She greeted a tree: it responded and sent ants and other insects to greet us.
Before we entered the woods, filled with native bluebells and wild garlic, she invited us to receive a healing touch. When she gently touched my chin, I received a rush of energetic information. The information was the sea and the saltiness of a sea breeze. I gasped and was invited to sit for 15 minutes in the woods. I chose a spot on a mossy log and from there I could hear a chiffchaff singing. When he stopped, it was time for me to move on. This strong sense of the sea lingered. I used to pick job locations based on how near they were to the sea. So, my first professional job was in Southampton, the next in Ipswich. Then I was offered a job with seniority and variety in Nottingham, which I accepted. I had nightmares about how far away from the sea it was. And the first day I arrived in the city, I took a train to the seaside. Thank you for awakening that memory.
We returned to the hall for more gentle clearings to do with Earth Day. We swapped Bars and Body Processes, and finished with us sitting in a circle to honour the Earth. Ruth had a beautiful guided meditation on the Earth for us to listen to.
3 Tips when meeting your new dentist
On 21st September 2018 by Tanya
I met my new dentist, last month, same practise and I was nervous. She asked me questions and I forgot most of the answers.
Tip one; Question one. How often do you brush your teeth? I brush and floss in the morning and afternoon and at lunch time. So, I carry dental floss and two interdental floss brushes and use those when I am away from home. The dental hygienist was so impressed by my routine that she gave me a gold star and no further visits. A saving of £80.00 per visit, I am happy with that.
Tip 2. What do you brush your teeth with? Well I have a soft tooth brush and a Miswack stick. I chose a beautiful soft toothbrush which I enjoyed using. Then I graduated to a Miswack stick or twig. The twig is really easy to use; after stripping the bark away and cutting a half an inch off, chewing the end so it looks like a brush I was ready to go.
A question she did not ask was how do you brush your teeth?
Very gently, each tooth has it’s allocated time from top to bottom with a soft vibration and held between two fingers and a relaxed wrist.
Tip 3 Question 3 Do you drink fizzy drinks? Yes, I used to love the Italian lemonade drink and the sugarless lemonade. I started just putting a few drops in a drink of water and wonder what to do with the remainder of the can ? That way it took a long time to finish the bottle or can. So, now I can say without hesitation. No, I drink water. My new dentist smiled when I said that.
There are more tips on the www.yourhappymouth.com
Anxiety and Depression
On 19th March 2018 by Tanya
When I was a teenager I suffered from “moods” huge swings from feeling happy, when I got good grades at school to feeling downcast when I got a grade which could be important for the future.
My parents brought us from Trinidad in the West Indies to have a good English education and it was important that I was doing well. No pressure at all from my parents! Just knowing that if I did badly at school I would be letting them down. In addition to that I am the eldest child so, there were others looking up to me. My younger, brother said well I did not get a degree as you did! Instead he got something else, which suited him better. So, maybe that could have helped towards me feeling anxious and worried most of those” happy go lucky years” at school, then later college and early days in my career.
When I left Careers Officers Training College I was anxious to get a job that suited the long, hard years of study.
I approached Southampton careers office, for a job. The Principal had a reputation for being severe and no-one wanted to apply who had just left college. I got it and managed a stormy time there. So, I decided to get another job and leave. This said boss would not write me a reference because in his opinion I required more experience in his office. I got discouraged and went to the doctor with my tale of woe. He prescribed tranquilisers because he thought I was depressed. The problem was I enjoyed a drink, then and it was not possible to do both, so after a couple of days I flushed the tranquilisers down the toilet.
I was not aware of Access Bars® and I began looking for alternatives to the anxiety I felt more or less constantly. I eventually left my highly paid senior Careers officers job and most people said I was having a ”nervous breakdown”. I chose to ignore them what was the point of being unhappy and having lots of money and feeling constantly constricted? I found yoga and started to teach it, that reduced the anxiety and later the Alexander Technique, until I discovered Access Bars® 3 years ago. The reduction in anxiety and discouraged feeling has been greatly helped by having my Bars® run, regularly.
I offer sessions in Bars® and I am amazed at how quickly clients respond to this very gently touch, it seems to melt concerns away. So, for now I will offer it and have it done myself. The latest study done about Bars® shows independently that it does work.
Talking about Teeth
On 18th March 2018 by Tanya
Last November, one of my dental crowns fell out and I visited the dentist in order to have it glued back in. She advised me about using a special crown flosser and I was lucky enough to obtain the very last one from the local chemist .In October I had started to follow the advice of Dr Tom Kelso the Happy Mouth® dentist. I was doing a class with the world wide co-ordinator Shauna Teaken who mentioned a simple, practise to help the mouth and the gums and I bought the softest toothbrush, I could find and began using it. It is recommended to change the diet to a slightly alkaline one so; I slowly made that change as well. I had to find out what that was!
Last week, I went for my usual check-up and the dentist said “Oh I can see an improvement in the amount of plaque from last time”. She was reluctant to remove the very tiny, amount which had built up. I am delighted!
In January, I had taken on more of the Happy Mouth® practises and started using the recommended mouthwash as well as the Chinese herbs and willow sticks, instead of tooth brush. At first, all of this seems daunting however I got into the swing of things quite easily. In fact, it was fun especially when I visited a chemist who did not stock Hydrogen Peroxide (for the mouthwash) she gave me a lecture about the UK’s state of high alert as being the reason.
I knew in my heart that it is possible to change the health of the teeth and gums and my determination is now reaping its rewards.
I choose not to tell my dentist about the extra, practise I had started; a few years ago she and I were talking about teeth and whether it was possible to re-grow them. She said no, so I figured it would be best to keep things to myself and lo, things had changed, naturally and effortlessly. If you would like to know more about what I am currently doing to improve the health of my teeth and gums I would be happy to talk or write to you.
Family and the Gift of Xmas
On 11th December 2017 by Tanya
My usual family pattern is trauma and drama, with strong points of view about everything.
One says says something the other does not like the other slams the phone down and does not speak for the next 3 days months or 3 years. I was talking to an Access Consciousness® facilitator about this. My question was how do I jump off this merry go round? Sometimes I feel like a fly pinned up against a wall of my family’s trauma and drama, their strong points of view coupled with being the eldest in a family of 5 siblings.
It can all get a bit wearing when we are locked into a pattern that we do not seem able to get out of. She suggested that my home-play could be “Interesting point of view, I have this point of view” or “Interesting point of view she or he has this point of view”. The first time I said it aloud when my mother was having a rant about something and she stopped and said “which part of what I said is interesting?” Ha ha, she stopped and I could get a breathing space in between and choose to say or do something different. For that split second she could stop and allow me some space.
When my husband has a strong, opinion or point of view about something I say this in my head interesting point of view he has this point of view. He carries on talking and then realises I have not jumped in and agreed or disagreed with him and then suspecting that I am “inhibiting” as he calls it he realises that nothing much is happening my end (except I am busy in my mind saying this) and he stops and we usually both end up laughing.
With my new found confidence I was in a shop when the sales assistant was strongly defending the benefits of having a red and blue car over a white one, including the scientific reports about having one colour over another.
Mentally I was saying Interesting point of view she has that point of view, until it eventually all fizzled out and the subject got changed to something neutral that we both could enjoy.
So, when your family are driving you up the wall with their opinions and their points of view, perhaps that is all it is? All, just an interesting point of view?
How much are you willing to receive?
On 1st December 2017 by Tanya
The clearings tools and processes of Access Consciousness is a new class I am facilitating. The class is drawn from the book “Money is not the problem, you are” by Gary M. Douglas Dr Dain Heer.
For years I have had difficulties with receiving and that for me was closely linked with being willing to receive money.
I have never been interested in money. However I have been interested in the subject and studied “A” Level Economics and Economic History. At college, part of my degree was in Economics. I got very excited when I learnt about the Stock Exchange. There was a place in London, which not only bought and sold goods but stocks and shares. It trades with other places just like it all over the world. There was a special paper devoted to financial matters called the “Financial Times” and it was pink. I still enjoy hearing the rates of exchange the GBP and the US dollar.
And people judged me for having that interest; “you are so mercenary” So, I learnt to keep quiet. The other thing I did was charge very little for my services, owe money and get into debt. Just like every-one else. I did it to be seen as “spiritual”.
Until I met Reiki and was encouraged to ask for money for my services. I was given guidelines. So, for instance I was encouraged to ask for £1,000 to do a Master’s Training course.
I felt it was wrong to ask for that much for doing something I considered really easy. So, I asked for less and I usually got people who complained they would like a discount, etc.
Until I did an Access on-line Class with Dr Dain Heer which suggested I put 10% of my income away. He said that we have things the wrong way around that we are supposed to have money not just spend it.
The 10% account is to honour yourself rather than every-one and bills first. I had very little money when I decided to do this every week I put money away into an account and I did not spend it. I shopped around for an ISA with a good interest rate, put £100 in from a low paying ISA and started. That was 2 and half years ag this year I bought my first ever Government Gilt and collected the interest on it. My enthusiasm for finances was realised this year when I visited and Investment Banking House for the first time in London.
If you are interested in attending the class there are many more tools and tips and clearing which could help you.
Secrets of a long and happy life
On 1st November 2017 by Tanya
Okinawa is an island just south west of Japan where the world’s longest living people, live. A study done by Canadian researchers over a 25 year period found 10 key areas which could have contributed to this.
I cover five of the points here.
- Their diet is rich in fruit and vegetables, up to 10 daily. Included rice, chicken, meat, pork, fish. Cholesterol levels were low when tested.
- They celebrated births, deaths, weddings funerals and other local customs, through traditional dancing and music and arts.
- All religions are welcome.
- Boys and girls play non-competitive games, traditionally.
- They had high levels of physical activity, one research participant a 90 year old was found cutting sugar cane at the back of his home.
The book “The Okinawa Way” describes all the points.
I was fortunate to visit the island and could see those long lived and happy people. What would give us in the West a long and happy life?
May I suggest the following?
- Have more fun, only you know what fun is for you.
- Have a quiet period during the day for a 3 to 5 minute relaxation.
- Move, some people enjoy a run other just require a gentle 10 minute stroll.
- Go into nature more, especially when winter comes.
- Be grateful for all the little things that make life wonderful.
On 7th August 2017 by Tanya
Cellular Memory is one of the Access Body Processes, which can change things for the better.
Last year whilst travelling up to Scotland by car, I used it on myself. We had had a break at a service station and were resuming our journey. I sat down and turned my head to put my seat belt on. My husband got in the car and swung his elbow to get his seatbelt. My head was in the way and got the full force of the blow. It hurt and brought tears to my eyes. Luckily I remembered cellular memory as being useful for accidents and I used it. I put my hands on top of my head and asked for it to run. Several miles later the pain had reduced and eventually went.
On another occasion a friend got stung by a wasp and I asked if he would like me to run this process on his finger. He agreed and I asked for it to run and it did. His finger was red and swollen and quite painful. A month later he said he had returned home and the swelling had gone down, he showed me his finger and it was smooth and matched the others. Both times I also used rescue remedy and the two seemed to work really well together.
I am using it currently to heal a scar from an operation I had some years ago.